In my own experience, it's around 20% conversion rate. For every five people that I open up with, one person will reciprocate that level of openness. I used to get this feeling of deep sadness when I open myself up with family and friends only to have them act nonchalant or barely keep attention to what I'm sharing. But I realised that it's more about them feeling uncomfortable and unable to handle their own emotions so I stopped taking it personally.
For the friends who were kind and caring, I have so much gratitude for them. They were the people who didn't make me feel silly or stupid for feeling the way I did. It was these relationships that got me through one of the lowest point in my life.
So true!! I know, some people think that to make a friendship you need to put in the work, and have at leave 140 hours of contact. This might be true for some adult friendships, but when something just clicks and you do share those feelings, then it's a whole different story. I think you're lucky to have friends like that. Especially those that don't require constant 'maintenance' and when you do meet it's like no time has passed!
I think there is this feeling of easiness that comes with any good relationship. There's an equal amount of respect and awe you have for one another that helps make the conversations really fulfilling. Also, I would say the biggest factor was that all of us were 'open' people. There were no 'fronts' to portray, no 'competitiveness' to up one another on - it really was quite refreshing!
We just want to sincerely thank you both for being such meaningful presences in our lives. We truly value the conversations and connections we’ve shared. Thank you for sharing your stories and allowing us to share ours. 😊 You both remind me of this quote: ‘Every good conversation starts with a good listener.’ It shows how much you both care about the people around you and helps us connect on a much deeper level. 💕
Thanks for sharing the quote - I love it! Definitely captured the essence of our weekend together. It is so true and extremely profound because most of us are awful listeners. We're too fixated on fearing what people will think of us - so sharing what we think others want to hear rather than sharing what we really think.
What I have found with our conversations is that I get to know you more with every word that was exchanged and vice versa. Honestly, like I mentioned before, it was as refreshing as it was invigorating. I was on a high when I came back to Bangkok and then managed to reconnect with TWO other friends from high school years! 😂 I think this goes to show that good relationships can really create positive chain reaction.
It shows the strength of the relation when we can meet and connect deeply with someone we didn't see in years or even decades :). Congratulations on the friendship rekindled!
Yes, absolutely - the reconnection really did give me hope that establishing a deeper relationship can go beyond distance and time. You don't always need the physical proximity nor frequency to help 'strengthen' relationships. I've boiled it down to 'just the effort to understand' is what makes it for me. That's all I could ask from my friends.
Yes, I still vividly remember returning to England after 7 years away and visiting my friend at his kitchen table. It was as if only a week had passed.
I wish so much more people would allow themselves to be authentic and vulnerable, allowing for true connections.
In my own experience, it's around 20% conversion rate. For every five people that I open up with, one person will reciprocate that level of openness. I used to get this feeling of deep sadness when I open myself up with family and friends only to have them act nonchalant or barely keep attention to what I'm sharing. But I realised that it's more about them feeling uncomfortable and unable to handle their own emotions so I stopped taking it personally.
For the friends who were kind and caring, I have so much gratitude for them. They were the people who didn't make me feel silly or stupid for feeling the way I did. It was these relationships that got me through one of the lowest point in my life.
So true!! I know, some people think that to make a friendship you need to put in the work, and have at leave 140 hours of contact. This might be true for some adult friendships, but when something just clicks and you do share those feelings, then it's a whole different story. I think you're lucky to have friends like that. Especially those that don't require constant 'maintenance' and when you do meet it's like no time has passed!
I think there is this feeling of easiness that comes with any good relationship. There's an equal amount of respect and awe you have for one another that helps make the conversations really fulfilling. Also, I would say the biggest factor was that all of us were 'open' people. There were no 'fronts' to portray, no 'competitiveness' to up one another on - it really was quite refreshing!
between friends for a reason and friends for a season is sounds like you found friends for a lifetime
We just want to sincerely thank you both for being such meaningful presences in our lives. We truly value the conversations and connections we’ve shared. Thank you for sharing your stories and allowing us to share ours. 😊 You both remind me of this quote: ‘Every good conversation starts with a good listener.’ It shows how much you both care about the people around you and helps us connect on a much deeper level. 💕
Thanks for sharing the quote - I love it! Definitely captured the essence of our weekend together. It is so true and extremely profound because most of us are awful listeners. We're too fixated on fearing what people will think of us - so sharing what we think others want to hear rather than sharing what we really think.
What I have found with our conversations is that I get to know you more with every word that was exchanged and vice versa. Honestly, like I mentioned before, it was as refreshing as it was invigorating. I was on a high when I came back to Bangkok and then managed to reconnect with TWO other friends from high school years! 😂 I think this goes to show that good relationships can really create positive chain reaction.
It shows the strength of the relation when we can meet and connect deeply with someone we didn't see in years or even decades :). Congratulations on the friendship rekindled!
Yes, absolutely - the reconnection really did give me hope that establishing a deeper relationship can go beyond distance and time. You don't always need the physical proximity nor frequency to help 'strengthen' relationships. I've boiled it down to 'just the effort to understand' is what makes it for me. That's all I could ask from my friends.
Yes, I still vividly remember returning to England after 7 years away and visiting my friend at his kitchen table. It was as if only a week had passed.